Anger management
There are many people who find that they have a short fuse or that they may have anger issues, it's a common enough situation.
Anger is a strong feeling that can be used to hurt other people, as well as those with the anger issue. It can be a problem in the work place, home, and even in public places. It is a feeling that is completely unpredictable and it can be very powerful.
Anger is described as an emotion that has intense fury. It is intense because your body’s heart rate and blood pressure will rise whilst at the same time you may exhibit physiological symptoms such as clenching of the fists or teeth. You feel a rush because your adrenal glands start producing increased levels of the hormone - adrenaline.
When you are producing this negative feeling and it's ascociated adrenaline you can become unpredictable and out of control. It can sometimes be a scary place to be for you and for others. If you have ever gotten to an uncontrollable point and it’s a reoccurring thing, you should consider taking an anger management program or class.
When you start to explore anger management you are able to find ways of expressing your anger without getting to that uncontrollable point. One of the most natural way's of expressing your anger is through violence and threats, however, when you do begin to understand these drivers you will discover how to express your anger in a positive way instead of continually going on the defensive.
The first step to anger management is learning what sets you off. If you can pinpoint what upsets you then you have an opportunity to use measures that will work to counteract the trigger and thereby help you to avoid flaring up in the first place.
The second step is to learn techniques that will help you lower your adrenaline levels and to keep your cool when your anger is in the process of being triggered. You may be able to close your eyes and talk yourself down or you may find that you have to sing a song or walk away thinking about something that can hold your concentration; anything that will help you focus on something else like counting or singing, will ease your body and your emotions.
There are many different types of people who have to learn the processes of anger management. One type is the outwardly aggressive person. If you typically express your anger through aggressive behaviour then you will benefit from building a clear understanding of what drives you. You can of course gain this from a number of sources, anger management classes or group therapy, one on one consultation and an increasing approach today is to work with a self-study program as a precursor to the other approaches which many people don't need once they understand their triggers and have learn't some effective ways to manage their condition.
Another type of behaviour is passive aggressive behavior and this is where you indirectly get back at someone. It is a form of behaviour that aims to control others with words but not violence, however, you are very likely to reach a violent point when the mind games stop working.
This form of insideous bahaviour can be quite dangerous and can over time become very deeply seated within your personality. If you have been in this mode for some time, then you will more likely benefit from one on one counselling with a professional in the field.
People who are aggressive tend to be predictable. Those who are passive-aggressive are unpredictable and you never really know what they can do or will do. This can be very scary for those who are close to this type of person, often making any relationship very unstable and stressful for those unfortunate enough to be on the receving end of this particular style of behaviour.
For those that feel they would benefit from a course of self study then you might consider getting yourself a copy of JJ Cooper's materials which are available in written and audio formats.
Anger Management & Agressive Feelings